How to take back financial control
Nicole Iacovoni

Nicole Iacovoni

Nicole Iacovoni is a financial therapist, licensed psychotherapist, and writer for women entrepreneurs who are tired of struggling financially and feel overwhelmed by the emotional up’s and down’s of growing a business.

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Have you ever felt out of control with money? Does it seem like money is elusive, fickle, and always outside your reach?

You’ve probably thought to yourself, “I really need to get in control of my finances”.

But what does that mean? What does that look like exactly?

Some people think it means hustling and grinding in your business to increase profits. This type of “taking control” involves exhausting yourself for the sake of money. No thanks.

Other people think “taking control” means eliminating ALL expenses…not spending a dime…sacrificing pleasure so they can keep what little money they have. This type of control involves deprivation. I don’t know about you, but that’s a hard NO for me.

So, is there a way to get in control of your finances WITHOUT burning yourself out, staying at home doing nothing, and giving up all of life’s guilty pleasures?

YES!!…but first we need to redefine what it means to be in control of your finances.

Here’s what it DOESN’T mean:

  • Manipulating clients/customers or forcing a sale so you can make more money in your business
  • Pushy sales calls or a gazillion follow-up emails, social media posts, or webinars to sell your stuff

  • Saying “no” to anything that costs money, no matter how much you want it

  • Giving your partner the riot act whenever he/she brings a shopping bag in the house

  • Eliminating gifts and donations from your spending plan cause’ ain’t nobody takin’ your money

  • Watching your bank account like a hawk and obsessing over every transaction

There are many things you don’t have any control over…like other people.

You can’t make someone buy from you if they don’t want to. You can’t make your partner stop spending money. You can’t eliminate the need for groceries or force your money to multiply x10 while you’re sleeping. (Although, that would be really nice.)

But there are also many things you do have control of:

  • Your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
  • The way you respond to situations.

  • Decisions about how much you’ll spend every month and on what

  • How many potential clients/customers you’ll reach out to and how often (in a kind, generous way!)

  • The way you communicate with your partner about money (to work together as a team)

The key to taking control of your finances isn’t about forcing, pushing, or stressing out…

…it’s simply about focusing on the things you actually can influence and letting go of the things you have no control over.

By doing so, getting in control of your finances will feel fun and playful instead of a complete drag.

Delighting potential clients with an invitation to have a swoon-worthy experience with you without stressing about whether or not they buy feels WAY better than pushy sales tactics that make both of you want to cry.

Thinking of your money as a BFF who wants to treat you to everything you enjoy feels WAY better than thinking that your money is like a bitter ex who’s out for revenge.


Now, make a plan. What’s ONE way you can take better control of your finances this week?

Comment and let me know!

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