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Tears spilled onto my keyboard as I read the 2-star Amazon review:
“Worst book ever. It’s so negative and she just goes on and on. Glad I got it cheap but it’s not worth the $1.99.”
I was devastated. It took me seven years to write that book. I struggled through the self-publishing process but managed to get my first book out into the world. I’d poured my heart, and many personal stories from my tragic break-up, into that book.
*A word from the Crypt Keeper:
In Episode #4 of BUSINESS TALES FROM THE CRYPT, a confidence eating zombie hunts you down. It wrecks your life by leaving you bad reviews, sending hate mail to your inbox, rejecting your podcast/media pitches, and constantly telling you that you suck and shouldn’t be in business. Can you stop the Rejection Zombie from eating your self confidence and killing your business dreams?
Those comments stung like a hot poker through the eye and I started to doubt myself. Was my book absolutely horrendous like she said? Did I drone on and on? Maybe I should give up writing completely…since I’m so terrible at it.
I wondered how I could have been less “negative” when writing about a terrible break-up that shattered my world. I mean, the topic wasn’t a happy one…but I added numerous tips and strategies for surviving a break-up…and swirled in humor and sarcasm too. Did she see that?
After questioning my book and my writing ability, I started questioning the source of the review. Who the hell was she? Why would someone take the time to write such a scathing review?
I looked up her other Amazon reviews and noticed something intriguing. My book was the only one she’d read about break-ups…but there were three other books she’d reviewed, which were all about how to find a NEW MAN! Clearly, she wasn’t torn up over the loss of her relationship…
…and she wasn’t looking for strategies to heal a broken heart. She had moved on and was already looking for a replacement.
No wonder she hated my book. It wasn’t written for her. It was written for women who were actually sad about getting dumped and wanted help dealing with the tough emotions that come with that.
That helped me take on a new perspective…and stop that Rejection Zombie from gobbling up my dreams of writing more books.
Throughout my career as an entrepreneur, I’ve been rejected by:
Each time I heard the word “no” felt like having splinters shoved under my fingernails. Every time I heard nothing back at all…just dead silence…made me want to hide in a dark closet and never come back out.
Every time a Rejection Zombie showed up, it wrecked me…until I figured out how to deal with it.
If you’ve ever felt the sharp pain of rejection, a bad review, a nasty comment from an internet troll, or a hateful message in your inbox, here’s how to survive it:
Ask yourself: Am I proud of the work I’ve done? Do I feel good about the way I handled that situation? Did I do my absolute best here?
If the answer is “yes”, forget what anyone else has to say. If the answer is “no”, be grateful that the Rejection Zombie led you to a place of self discovery and helped you see what you can do better moving forward.
If you’re an entrepreneur, coach, therapist, or creative business woman, you’re bound to experience criticism and rejection…because you’re out there in the world doing shit. You’re only safe from the Rejection Zombie if you’re sitting on the sidelines like a coward.
But rejection doesn’t have to destroy your confidence…your dreams…or your business. You have the power to fight off any Rejection Zombie that shows up in your life and move forward in your work no matter what.
The next time you feel the sting of rejection, pull up these tips and put them into action!