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I could talk about the joy that comes with creating and living a wealthy life all day long…Because I’ve discovered some powerful secrets that’s led me to living wealthy.
But truth be told: my life started out…well, UN-wealthy.
My father abandoned me and my mother before I was born. My mother was young and unprepared for parenthood. She wanted to live her life, not take care of the many demands of an infant.
She often left me in the care of my grandparents…old-fashioned, blue collar folks from the Mid-west who had little-to-nothing but would give you the shirt off their backs.
Their idea of living a wealthy life didn’t include big houses or fancy cars; it was about growing fresh vegetables in the garden, putting in a swimming pool after years of saving, and paying for me to take piano lessons every week.
Because my family life wasn’t “normal” and I didn’t have a doctor for a Dad like the girls I went to school with, I fell into the “misfit click”. I was quiet, private, and creative. None of my peers knew much about me, so they made stuff up.
And even though there were other unpopular, poor misfits in the click I was assigned to by my peers, I didn’t feel like I fit in anywhere with them either. I spent most of my life feeling embarrassed, ashamed, and unworthy of being happy, wealthy or loved.
Despite my insecurities and introversion, I had a burning desire for a better life. I wanted to be happy and make impact in the world. I wanted to do something special with my life.
I wanted to have money to travel and experience new things…I didn’t want to struggle like my grandparents. I didn’t want to be kept from living my dreams because I couldn’t afford it.
…but deep down…I didn’t believe I was worthy of living a wealthy life.
How could I be worthy?
I came from nothing. My own parents didn’t really want me. I didn’t have close friends. People gossiped about me, and I could only imagine what the kids at school thought of me.
Nope… there was no way I was worthy of living a wealthy life.
But I wanted it…so. damn. bad.
I figured that there must be a way to earn worth. Maybe if I was good, worked hard, paid my dues…if I did all the right things, then I might be worthy of happiness, wealth and love.
I spent over ten years trying to shed my misfit identity and become worthy of living my dreams…
…I did everything I was “supposed” to do. Got my education. Got a big shot job with a nice salary. Got a man. Got engaged…
But every step of the way, I felt restless, stressed out and angry.
Hmmm…not really what I pictured when I envisioned living wealthy.
It wasn’t until my relationship ended in a catastrophic way and my job burnt me out that I was all alone with nothing to do but soul search.
Why hadn’t I been able to become worthy of living the life of my dreams?
What did I do wrong?
In the moments of quiet, in between the tears, I discovered I never really had to DO anything to earn happiness, wealth and love.
I was worthy all along…and it never mattered where I came from, how people treated me in the past, or what anyone thought of me…I had the power to create a prosperous, joyful life. It was INSIDE me…not OUT there to be earned.
All I had to do was BELIEVE in my worth and go for my dreams – no matter how big or bold they seemed- without trying to prove myself to anyone else.
Think about how much time and energy you’re wasting on trying to prove yourself and earn your worth…
…think about all the momentum you could gain if you used that time and energy to create your dream life.
When I stopped wasting my mental power worrying about my past and trying to defy my misfit reputation…and started getting busy serving others, pursuing my passions, and loving others in the way I wanted to be loved…
The world opened up. My soul was set on fire. The money flowed in. The love poured over me.
You deserve to live your dreams- every single one of them. And you don’t have to DO anything to be worthy. You don’t have to prove yourself. You just have to know what you desire and start creating it.
You’re already worthy.
If you need some help figuring out what living a wealthy life looks like for you, this post will help: Diving Deep Into Desire: How the Presence of Absence of Desire can Make or Break Your Financial Future.
And if you think that talking about your own misfit identity will help you shed it so you can live the life of your dreams- I’d love to walk through it with you. Grab your favorite beverage and come chat with me in my private Facebook group: Kicking Ass Creating Wealth.
Nicole Iacovoni is a psychotherapist, writer, wealth coach, and spiritual guide on a mission to teach working moms how to harness the power of their minds to create wealthy lives.